Friday, August 10, 2007

Attitude adjustment

I've been trying to make a lot of changes in my life these past couple months, which primarily includes making a huge effort to be the best wife I can be. (Two months of bliss and counting!) I wanted to fall in love with my husband all over again and doggone it, I think I've done that.

Over the past couple months I've thought to myself, "Did I shortchange myself by getting married so young?" I'm sure countless others would say yes, but for the record, I'll have to say a whole-hearted "No."

There simply are no words to describe our relationship. No words to say how incredible I feel when I'm with him. It feels like God has blessed me, has shown me divine favor. I feel like I'm living a miracle every day.

We just simply "get" each other. We know what to say or what to do and our relationship just works. I know when to hold my tongue, he knows when I need to be left alone, and we just work together as team. I have NEVER been happier.

I used to be annoyed with him on a daily basis. Sure, I loved him to pieces, but the minute he would say something or do something that I didn't agree with, I would let that color my mood and get me angry. Now I don't. I've know now that he loves me no matter what, so if he goes to the store and forgets to buy formula, I don't trip.

It honestly feels so good I just want to shout!! None of my other friends are married, so sometimes I do feel like the old married lady even though I'm the youngest. And I do wish sometimes that one of them would tie the knot, but only because I want to share my feelings with someone who knows where I'm coming from. But I know that for some, the search for a soulmate doesn't end with the first, second, or even third relationship. I want them all to be happy and thrilled with the love they have.

But this feels so good I can't keep it to myself!!


Anonymous said...

I came across your blog, and it really caught my eye! I'm a newly wed, and despite the love for my husband, I sometimes get the feeling that I 'short-changed' myself as well. I have been reading a lot about how to make relationships work lately, and trying to choose my battles. Your blog really made me feel at peace, knowing there are others who had made the same choice as me, but our loyal enough to stick by their vows.

That Journalist said...

I think we all feel like that at times, especially since we're newlyweds. It's easy to think maybe we should've waited, or maybe it isn't right. But I think those doubts are normal. I'm glad you liked my post.

Come back soon!

Navilyn said...

I like this post! I went to a wedding on Friday, and it reminded me (in addition to your post here) that I need to make a real effort with my marriage.

Nothing is wrong with it, but keeping the 'fire' going is the trick.

So, thanks for reminding me of that...

Clark Kent said...

I don't know if I'm making it a habit to comment on the marriage blogs, or what, but -- it really does change the person you are. That's why they have that "for better or for worst" clause in that marital contract; you can't run if someone's head is spinning 360 degrees, right?